The goal for the Christian husband’s conduct in relation to his wife is unhindered prayer. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Having looked up every use of this term in the New Testament,103 I think it is safe to say its primary emphasis is upon that “knowledge” which is from above, knowledge of Christ, the Gospel, and that which God has revealed, especially as it relates to marriage.104 There are distorted forms of knowledge, but this false knowledge is clearly indicated (Romans 2:20; 1 Timothy 6:20). Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach. (King James Version). (4) Elsewhere the one to whom submission is required is looked upon as the source of suffering for the one who is required to submit. If you don’t do this, you will find it impossible to pray properly (Phillips). 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives [ought to be] to their husbands in everything. In the world, men use their strength to their own advantage and to the disadvantage of the weak. To honor someone is to attribute value to them, to esteem them as having value. Our Lord did not cling to His elevated status over men and demand that men serve Him. Submission is evidenced when we consider the interests of another more important than self-interest (see Philippians 2:3-8). Christ’s humbling did not occur when we were “strong,” when we were obedient, but when we were enslaved to sin, helpless and hopeless on our own: 6 For while we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. I therefore seem to differ with Edmund Clowney’s emphasis, but not in a way that rejects the point he makes: “Does Peter mean knowledge of the wife, or knowledge of God and his calling? I will do for you all that you ask, for all my fellow townsmen know that you are a worthy woman. The problem is that our fallen nature inclines us to capitalize on our wife’s weaknesses to enhance our own position and power. If the husbands are not looked upon as “abused,” why are husbands addressed in this context, with the same term which introduced his instruction to wives (“in the same way,” 3:1)? P. 224. The one who is weak in teaching is most apparent to the one with the gift of teaching. Matthew 5:32 - But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. The command to “dwell with their wives” is but the instruction of our Lord as expressed through His apostles. Perhaps, they reasoned, it would be better not to enter into marriage if Jesus’ view of marriage was the standard. 98 Every student of this text must answer several crucial questions before its interpretation and application can be discerned. 31 FOR THIS CAUSE A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER, AND SHALL CLEAVE TO HIS WIFE; AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. ‣ Unless otherwise indicated, all content is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution License. Weakness is also used in a more general way in the New Testament, which I think is more in line with Peter’s meaning. There are three commonly held beliefs about what constitutes a marriage in the eyes of God: The couple is married in the eyes of God when the physical union is consummated through sexual intercourse. Bible > Topical > Marriage Separation Marriage Separation Jump to: Topical • Library • Subtopics • Resources Topical Bible Verses 1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. Its most common use is in reference to a man living with a woman as his wife (Genesis 20:3).100 Sometimes there is a more specific reference to sexual intercourse between a husband and his wife (Deuteronomy 22:13; 25:5b). (3) In the other instances requiring submission, it is assumed the one submitting is a believer, while the one to whom submission is required may likely be an unbeliever. I do not think this conforms to the spirit of this text or to Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 7:5. Other revelation regarding Christian marriage which we find in Paul’s first epistle to the Corinthians appears to compliment Peter’s words to husbands in our text. In such cases, our prayers are both misdirected and unanswered: 1 What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Christian husbands, therefore, cannot look on their wives as unbelievers do, for they look upon their wives only in terms of the present time and culture. First Peter is not only about suffering; it is also about hope, our future hope: 13 Therefore, gird your minds for action, keep sober [in spirit,] fix your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ (1 Peter 1:13; see also 1:3-12, etc.). In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. We know this verse is a part of a larger passage in which Peter is dealing with the subject of submission, which introduced in chapter 2: 13 Submit yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every human institution, whether to a king as the one in authority, 14 or to governors as sent by him for the punishment of evildoers and the praise of those who do right. Barnes’ Bible Charts A Wife’s Obligations to Her Husband LOVE HER HUSBAND • Titus 2:5 BE THE KEEPER OF THE HOME • Titus 2:5 HER DESIRE BE TO HER HUSBAND • Genesis 3:16 NOT USURP AUTHORITY OVER HER We see another illustration of how we honor those who are weaker in the Scriptures in Romans 14 (also see 1 Corinthians 8-10). ‣ Blessed is the one who reads aloud the words of this prophecy, and blessed are those who hear, and who keep what is written in it, for the time is near. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. ... How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride! The Christian husband seeks to discover the weaknesses of his wife, not so that he may use these to his advantage but to employ his strength in compensating for her weakness. For a woman to submit to her husband, to be silent and have a gentle and quiet spirit (as taught in 3:1-6) is to be weak in the eyes of the world. And if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”. by Matt Slick5/16/15 There is nothing in the Scripture that says that every single individual Christian must get married and have children. Our weaknesses are more evident to those close to us than they are to us. When the first brother dies, the second, who lives nearby, is to take the widow as his wife in order to raise up seed for his deceased brother. Loving God and loving men sums up the Old Testament Law (see Matthew 22:34-40). In 1 Thessalonians 4:4 Paul seems to use the term vessel in reference to the human body. Now I commend you because you remember me in everything and maintain the traditions even as I delivered them to you. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the chu… 2 You lust and do not have; [so] you commit murder. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 16 [Act] as free men, and do not use your freedom as a covering for evil, but [use it] as bondslaves of God. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Nowhere is the husband specifically called upon to be silent. John to the seven churches that are in Asia: Grace to you and peace from him who is and who was and who is to come, and from the seven spirits who are before his throne, and from Jesus Christ the faithful witness, the firstborn of the dead, and the ruler of kings on earth. ‣ Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. And so we can see how the husband may be “abused” and in his suffering as a husband may toy with the temptation of giving up or of getting out. Topical Bible 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself [being] the Savior of the body. For all eternity there will be no distinction between slave and free, rich and poor, male and female. When there is conflict between believers, it is often due to their pursuit of self-interest rather than a mutual submission to each other. But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’. 2 Bear one another’s burdens, and thus fulfill the law of Christ (Galatians 6:1-2). Rather than demanding honor from his wife, he should grant honor to her. Sometimes it is not encouragement that is needed, but help. G The husband should not endeavor to “use” his headship over his wife for his own fulfillment or satisfaction but should use it as a means of serving his wife. (2) In the command to “dwell with them according to knowledge,” is the emphasis on “living with” or on “according to knowledge,” or both? The knowledge which should govern the conduct of the Christian husband and wife is not knowledge known to mankind in general. Labs ‣ Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. Here, the husband is called upon to submit to one under his authority. Deuteronomy 23:23 says The cross is not only the pattern for Christian marriage, it is the basis. D They indicate that just as the example of our Lord is the pattern for slaves and Christian wives, it is also the pattern for Christian husbands. Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God (James 4:1-4). These Bible verses can help save your broken marriage, with the work of … And we urge you, brethren, admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with all men (1 Thessalonians 5:14). The husband of the godly woman of Proverbs is “known in the gates” of the city, because of his wife (31:23). “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”. Peter has been explaining how the Christian’s hope changes his perspective on suffering.108 The Christian’s hope makes him an alien and a stranger on this earth. In contrast, the Bible contains more than 2,000 verses about money (and related issues of greed, wealth, loans, and property), and more than 100 specifically on one's obligation … They are to do so by manifesting the servanthood of Christ toward their wives, just as Christ demonstrated His servanthood toward the church. The roles which husbands and wives are to fulfill in this life will be left behind when we enter into the hope of heaven. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. 9 “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” 10 The disciples *said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” 11 But He said to them, “Not all men [can] accept this statement, but [only] those to whom it has been given. You do not have because you do not ask. This is where the entire body of Christ may begin to play a very necessary and needed role. 7 For one will hardly die for a righteous man; though perhaps for the good man someone would dare even to die. Knowledge of God distinguishes Christian love from pagan lust. 12 And so, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. The Bible says that marriage is not defined or ordained by mankind (Matthew 19:5-6). Now as a concession, not a command, I say this. N What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Then your prayers will not be hindered (The New English Bible). But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. He made it known by sending his angel to his servant John, who bore witness to the word of God and to the testimony of Jesus Christ, even to all that he saw. Finally, we must also be aware of the danger that especially exists in our culture of abusing Peter’s teaching here. Neither does he or she have the faith to do the things a “stronger” brother can do in good faith. In chapter 2, Peter turned our attention to the Lord Jesus Christ as the model servant, whose silent and sacrificial suffering brought about our own salvation. God has called you to peace. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 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